{"id":6778,"date":"2023-06-28T11:29:34","date_gmt":"2023-06-28T15:29:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/?p=6778"},"modified":"2023-06-28T11:29:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-28T15:29:34","slug":"the-decision-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/the-decision-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The Decision"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Recap: Michal has asked the Rov to put the divorce proceedings on hold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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When you just need someone to hold your hand…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a0\u201cTell me, Ima,\u201d she said hesitantly, \u201cabout the divorce\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ima finally looked up from the sefer<\/em>. (prayer book)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAre you certain that we have to do it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAre you crazy or what?\u201d Ima was taken aback.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYes. I told the to\u2019en<\/em> (Rabbinic advisor), Rav Moshe, to put it on the back burner. I want to check out a few things.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat is there to check out?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI spoke with Elchanan.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat? How?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019d called her yesterday, just when she got back from work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In her cell phone, his number was saved under the name \u201cmy brand-new husband,\u201d something amusing she\u2019d done two days before the wedding. Now, her \u201cbrand-new husband\u201d called and he spoke so nicely. He asked forgiveness and asked to explain what had happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou tricked us,\u201d Michal said laconically. \u201cIt\u2019s simply a mekach ta\u2019ut<\/em> (transaction based on misinformation) .\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNot really,\u201d he said, his voice breaking, literally. \u201cI wasn\u2019t diagnosed until now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat do you mean, not diagnosed?\u201d Michal got angry. \u201cThe psychiatrist knew you well!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTrue,\u201d he said. \u201cHe knew me from a specific incident that took place\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And he told her about that day, two years earlier, when he found himself at the scene of a terrorist attack in Yerushalayim (Jerusalem) and, against his will, was witness to unspeakable horrors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI went back to yeshiva, headed for my room, lay down in my bed, and couldn\u2019t function,\u201d he related. His sentences were complete, but his voice was crushed. \u201cEveryone was certain that it was because of the terrorist attack. They sent me for psychological therapy, but it didn\u2019t help. I continued lying in bed, while scenes of the attack appeared in my mind, pictures of the terrorist cruelly plunging his knife\u2026 I couldn\u2019t get out of it. Nobody blamed it on anything other than the trauma. Even the psychiatrist. But I, I couldn\u2019t get out of it until the psychiatrist treated me\u2026 We all attributed it to the terrorist attack. Wouldn\u2019t you have thought the same?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Michal admitted inside that, yes, she would.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAnd then, what?\u201d he asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAfter that, I got back to myself in a big way! I was shteiging <\/em>(growing spiritually) away and I felt fantastic. When I got to shidduchim<\/em> (dating to find a wife) , I went to the Rosh Yeshiva (head of the Yeshiva) and asked if I have to report the incident. He weighed the matter and looked into it and then responded that since it was a one-time thing, I didn\u2019t have to mention it. It could happen to anyone. But Michal, something apparently collapsed inside me then, and opened a window to problems that must have been hidden inside me from before. I was never diagnosed with mental illness. Once in a while, I\u2019d experience mild depression or bad moods, but nothing regular or unusual. Michal, I\u2019m begging you. Please look into it. Maybe Ezer Mizion. They\u2019re very knowledgeable. And they have a very big Mental Health Division. \u00a0To be continued.<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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