{"id":6787,"date":"2023-07-05T16:26:36","date_gmt":"2023-07-05T20:26:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/?p=6787"},"modified":"2023-07-05T16:30:35","modified_gmt":"2023-07-05T20:30:35","slug":"the-decision-part-five","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/the-decision-part-five\/","title":{"rendered":"The Decision part five"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Recap: Elchanan, the chassonm(groom), begins to explain his side of the story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI have another proof that we didn\u2019t do anything deliberately. If we had known all along that it was mental illness, if I would have been under the regular care of a psychiatrist, we would have gone to him to get an injection already before the wedding, wouldn\u2019t we? I promise you that nothing was done maliciously and with knowledge.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Michal softened. She could tell it was the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWait\u2026\u201d she said. \u201cAnd how about what your mother said to me, \u201cSomeone who helps chatanim<\/em>,\u201d and then she took us to the psychiatrist?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat was really her mistake. But you need to understand her, too. Her eldest, beloved, successful son\u2026 and the word \u2018psychiatrist\u2019 is so frightening. I beg of you to do your \u2018homework,\u2019 and above all, I beg of you to forgive me.\u201d\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Michal\u2019s heart went out to him. She immediately forgave him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 \u201cNo way,\u201d Ima said now. \u201cMental illness is hereditary. Do you want your children to be like that, too?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Michal didn\u2019t know what to answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She didn\u2019t want her children to be like that. Elchanan said that they don\u2019t know of anyone else with such a condition in the family, but who knows. Aside from the other troubles, Michal felt herself in a moral dilemma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abbam (Father) was angry. \u201cYou\u2019re not supposed to think about him; you\u2019re supposed to think about you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m thinking about me,\u201d she said. \u201cI\u2019m thinking only about me.  \u201cMeanwhile I want to wait with it. I need to check out a few things.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abba gnashed his teeth so furiously that one tooth cracked in the corner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI recommend getting an immediate divorce, but we\u2019ll go ask. We\u2019ll consult with a rav<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They managed to get an urgent appointment with Rav (Rabbi)X and went into him immediately \u2013 Michal and her father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Rov was kind and understanding. \u201cFirst of all, I must point out that mental illness is an illness like all illnesses. Proper care can help the patient and his family very much. People with mental illness can be marvelous individuals whose company is very pleasurable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHakadosh Baruch Hu (G-d) put you into this situation and it would seem that there are no guilty parties here. This is not a case where they knew there\u2019s a distinct illness and they didn\u2019t tell you. From this point, the choice is yours. The question is if you think you\u2019ll be able to handle it. Take into account that, from Shamayim (Heaven), the \u2018sacks\u2019 of good and of bad will always be precisely meted out to you. A nisayon<\/em> (test) avoided in one place is liable to appear in another place\u2026 You have to take all of the aspects into consideration, make a decision, and stick with it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhy should such a good girl, without any defects, get into a \u2018sickbed\u2019?\u201d Abba asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTo the same extent, the chatan <\/em>could have been in a serious traffic accident and become paralyzed. What would you have said then? Would you have tossed him out?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not the same thing,\u201d Abba squirmed. \u201cHere there is something that they knew.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDid he really know he had a mental illness and he didn\u2019t say? I have a suggestion. Go to Ezer Mizion. There are professionals there who can guide you. They know a lot and they\u2019ll have answers to all your questions.\u201d  To be continued<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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