{"id":6797,"date":"2023-07-19T10:27:35","date_gmt":"2023-07-19T14:27:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/?p=6797"},"modified":"2023-07-19T10:27:35","modified_gmt":"2023-07-19T14:27:35","slug":"the-decision-part-seven","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ezermizion.org\/blog\/the-decision-part-seven\/","title":{"rendered":"The Decision part seven"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Recap: Michal and her father receive elucidation from the Rov (Rabbi) and begin to discuss the situation with a psychiatrist,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cAs I said, the eruptions are primarily the result of environment and incident. People use the expression \u2018not normal,\u2019 but sometimes, \u2018not normal\u2019 is normal. Think logically. Someone who went through the Holocaust and is absolutely mentally healthy \u2014 without any outbursts of anxiety or depression \u2014 is by no means \u2018normal.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat means,\u201d Michal began to understand, \u201cthat if Elchanan would not have witnessed the terrible terrorist attack, this thing would not have erupted, and I wouldn\u2019t have known, but at some stage in the future, it is likely that it would have erupted?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDefinitely,\u201d said the psychiatrist. \u201cThis is what we mean when we say \u2018Everything is from Shamayim (by Heavenly decree).\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00a0I recommend to you that before you decide, keep meeting with the Ezer Mizion staff. They\u2019ll hold your hand. And if you decide to keep the marriage, Ezer Mizion will be available at any time 24\/7 for anything that comes up, anything that makes you nervous, anything that seems questionable. They\u2019ll be there for you to ease any difficult situation, anytime you wonder if something is normal or not and you need a listening ear, they\u2019ll be there. Look into it more and\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDo your homework,\u201d Michal finished for her. \u201cYou are the third one sending me to do it.\u201d The homework was difficult. And Ezer Mizion did hold her hand\u2026 so lovingly, with so much information to answer her many, many questions. But ultimately, it was her decision. And a final decision was so hard.\u00a0 And, as time passed, her parents were in the same place. At first, they were dead set against continuing the marriage, but a delegation of family members from the chatan<\/em>\u2019s (groom’s) side came and pleaded for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOur family is absolutely devoid of any similar case,\u201d Uncle Shloime promised. \u201cI am willing to get hold of all the medical records and show you! It\u2019s not in the family and not hereditary by any means.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt was a one-time incident that happened and triggered the outburst,\u201d the mother cried. \u201cIsn\u2019t it something that could happen to anyone, especially in this country?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAfter Shabbat,\u201d said her parents, \u201cwe\u2019ll decide.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And they put off the final decision a little more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Malky sat on the bench, her eyes two blue slits, exuding tragedy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how Michal met her the first time on Erev Shabbat (Friday afternoon) , when she walked up the road on her way home from the neighborhood where the weekly Shabbat shiur <\/em>(lecture) had been delivered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was just thinking how absurd it was that, again, she was going up the street. Again Shabbat. Again walking home with Libby, the friend-neighbor her age, from the weekly shiur<\/em>. After she\u2019d said \u201cgoodbye\u201d to everything. After the pain and the separation that was accompanied by a sense of moving on. And now, she seemed to be going backwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s Malky.\u201d Libby poked Michal with her elbow. \u201cDo you remember the story?\u201d to be continued<\/p>\n\"Facebook\"<\/a>\"twitter\"<\/a>\"pinterest\"<\/a>\"linkedin\"<\/a>\"mail\"<\/a>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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